SOPHIA SPENCER | PSYCHOTHERAPIST & COACH
Confidence Specialist
Helping you with social anxiety, belonging & visibility.
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Does this sound familiar?
You've always felt a little different, like you don't quite fit the mould everyone else seems to squeeze into effortlessly.
Maybe you've achieved things that look impressive from the outside, but you still feel like an anxious outsider looking in. Like you're performing a version of yourself that you think will be accepted, rather than showing up as who you actually are.
You imagine a version of you that speaks up without worrying if you sound "weird" or “stupid,” and walks into rooms knowing you belong there. But you've spent so long trying to fit in (or not stand out) that you've lost touch with that authentic version of yourself.
You might be doing "all the confidence things" - trying to ground yourself, positive talk etc. - but you're still waiting for that moment when you finally feel safe around others without anxiety.
You might even be starting to wonder if there's something fundamentally wrong with you, like you're just not built for confidence or being social.
There isn't. You are.
From Self Doubt → Inner Authority
Inner Authority is that unshakeable knowing that you belong exactly where you are. It's the difference between performing confidence and genuinely embodying it.
But what about anxiety symptoms? They don’t come up in the same way because you feel safe. A nervous system that feels safe around people will not trigger significant anxiety.
You're no longer asking "How do I get them to like me?" but knowing "I belong here, and my presence adds value."
This isn't about learning ‘how to be confident’ - it's about addressing what's underneath the surface so you can say ‘I am confident’ and actually feel that to be true.
What is Inner Authority?
Hello, I’m Sophia!
I’m a specialist therapist & coach in all things related to confidence and social presence, including:
Social anxiety that holds you back
Feeling inferior around certain types of people/places
Struggling to be visible/authentic in your business or career
Family dynamics that keep you small and create lasting identity patterns
Imposter feelings despite your success
Struggling in high-visibility atmospheres
One key difference about my approach is I do not work with thoughts, as much as I work with your belief in those thoughts, and subsequent emotions.
Many of my clients find their thoughts aren’t ‘logical’, yet, they still can’t help but react. This is at the crux of my treatment approach that helps you build Inner Authority.
Ex-NHS
I bring with me 5+ years of NHS experience, including supervising and training other therapists.
Specialised support
I focus exclusively on working on what it means to be visible socially - whether that’s in relationships, in business, on stage, or general day-to-day.
100% retention
It can be hard to find the right therapist for you. I take pride in that to date anyone who has attended a first session with me has always returned for another.
Politically Informed
Prior to therapy, my background was in social psychology and politics. I understand that social anxiety and confidence struggles don't exist in a vacuum - they're often informed by social systems. While therapy isn't a 'political' space, I don't pretend that your struggles exist separately from the society you navigate daily.
Trauma Informed
My approach recognises that your nervous system's responses make perfect sense given what you've experienced. Rather than treating symptoms in isolation, I work with the underlying patterns and protective mechanisms that once kept you safe but may now be holding you back from the life you want to build.
Culturally Informed
Culture isn't an afterthought in my work - it's central to understanding who you are. As someone of mixed heritage from a family with multiple religious influences, who has lived in three countries and has a partner from a different cultural background, I understand that identity is complex and multifaceted. Your cultural background, family expectations, and the communities you navigate all shape your sense of self and belonging.
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