Relational and Social Trauma Therapy

Using the latest evidence based therapies to move from past relational and social trauma, to feeling safe and healthy in your social connections.

Relational and social trauma happens in our connections with others - the people we should have been able to count on, relationships that are/were important, or those who have treated us unfairly.

Sometimes it's about what happened.

Maybe you’ve experienced a break up, social humiliation, highly critical parents, betrayal or harm by others.

However, other times, it's about what never happened that should have.

Maybe you needed support during a hard time, but no one showed up. Perhaps teachers looked the other way when bullying happened. Or parents who were physically present but emotionally nowhere to be found.

These missing pieces matter just as much as the harmful things that did happen.

What is Relational Trauma?

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Something I hear often in relational trauma therapy:

“It wasn’t that big of a deal compared to the trauma some people experience”

My response:

“Social and relational trauma can range from seemingly "minor" events to serious violations of trust and safety. All are valid. What is important is the meaning we took from the experience that makes it a trauma or not, rather than the type of event.”

How does CBT help for relational trauma?

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CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) is a powerful, evidence-based approach that helps you identify and transform the thought patterns and core beliefs underlying relational trauma and anxiety—without getting trapped in negative relationship cycles or fears of connection.

For some, this means addressing specific relational wounds, ending of relationships, and attachment injuries, while for others, it's about challenging broader patterns of mistrust or self-protective behaviours that affect all relationships. CBT delivered online is effective for both targeted trauma responses and more generalised relationship difficulties.

Backed by decades of research and endorsed by major psychological organisations, CBT provides effective tools for healing relational trauma, rebuilding trust in connections, and developing healthier ways of engaging with others that align with your authentic self and needs.

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How does EMDR help for relational trauma?

EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing) is a powerful, evidence-based therapy that helps your brain reprocess the root experiences behind relational trauma and social anxiety—without having to endlessly revisit painful memories or analyse relationship patterns.

For some, this may involve processing specific instances of relational wounding or social rejection, while for others, it addresses deeper attachment injuries that have shaped how you connect with others. EMDR is effective for both targeted trauma and more pervasive relational patterns.

Backed by over 30 years of research and endorsed by major psychological organisations, EMDR provides an effective pathway to healing relationship difficulties, social fears, and the internal beliefs that keep you feeling unsafe or unworthy in connections with others.

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How do we work?

We begin with a thorough assessment to understand your unique relational patterns and challenges. From there, we'll collaboratively create a personalised treatment plan drawing from evidence-based approaches like EMDR and CBT.

Your therapy journey is flexible and responsive—we'll regularly check in on progress and adjust our approach as needed to best support your path toward healthier relationships and authentic social connection.

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Options for EMDR/CBT for Relational Trauma

Not sure what’s right for you?

No problem! In our assessment we will discuss which is the most likely to access the best outcome for you. Packages are designed so that payment plans can be provided for the level of care you need and to make EMDR more accessible, rather than fixed options that you need to choose before we have had an assessment.

Prices shown in GBP - payment available in your local currency at the current conversion rate.

Ready?

If you’re ready to feel safer in your relationships, please get in contact. We will have a free consultation to discuss your ultimate goal, answer questions, and see if you would like to move ahead - absolutely pressure free.

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